Thursday, October 11, 2012

One Girl's Fight for Education and Hope in a Beautiful, Mountain Valley



The value of the life of a girl is unfathomably measured by man based on where she is born.  If she is even given the chance to be born in some countries, her value is less than that of a boy. But if she is born in Taliban-controlled regions of Afghanistan and mountainous Pakistan near the Afghan border, her life is smothered by oppression and if she dares to cross the threshold of her home to simply get an education, she does so at risk of her own life.  In great struggles that come to light on the world stage, there is usually a protagonist with whom we can identify, with whose story we can feel compassion. In the struggle for the rights of female education in her country, that protagonist is Malala Yousafzai.

The bright-eyed, amazingly poised, 14-year-old girl was targeted by masked Taliban gunmen who boarded her bus on the way home from school, and was shot in the head and neck, leaving her fighting for her life in a struggle she began in her beloved Swat Valley three years ago. After the shooting, a Taliban spokesman said his organization considers Malala’s crusade for education rights an “obscenity” and if she survives, the group promises to try to kill her again.

Malala, named after a mythic female figure in Pashtun culture, once dreamt of becoming a doctor, but recently she became interested in politics to end the crises which have threatened to destroy her country for years. In 2011, she was nominated for the International Children’s Peace Prize for her bravery in standing up for girls’ educational rights amidst rising fundamentalism during a time when few adults would take a stand. Malala came to public attention in 2009 as the Pakistani Taliban, their faces covered by dark turbans, swept through her valley home, once a beautiful vacation spot famous for its music and tolerance, and unleashed a wave of violence. Her father ran one of the last schools that defied Taliban orders to end female education. As an 11-year-old, Malala began writing a blog about her struggle to be educated under daily threat and danger. “She symbolizes the brave girls of Swat” said Samar Minallah, a documentary filmmaker. “She knew her voice was important, so she spoke up for the rights of children. Even adults didn’t have a vision like hers.”

In neighboring Afghanistan, girls have been maimed by acid attacks, targeted by bombers, and had their drinking water poisoned simply because of their desire to be educated. While this happens under the oppressive Taliban, the overall education of girls in Afghanistan is improving. "Basically, you didn't have girls educated in 2001,” said Christine Roehrs, spokeswoman for Save the Children in Afghanistan. “And now we have 3 million girls in school."

The region awoke to the barbaric rule of the Taliban eleven years ago. Its regime in Afghanistan was known for brutal repression and subjugation of women who were not allowed to work or attend school. Women could not laugh out loud, wear bright colors, and their fingernails were ripped out for the crime of wearing nail polish. Taliban religious police on patrol daily beat women who went out alone or who were not dressed properly. Needless to say, the internet was banned, but imagine a country where even kite flying was outlawed.  It seemed that hope itself was extinguished.

While the Taliban has largely been pushed back and its ability to attack Pakistan’s major cities has waned in the past year, there are still rural areas along the Afghan border where militants have intensified their efforts to silence critics and impose their will.

As I watched a documentary about her struggle and listened to Malala and her father share their simple dream to live at peace and pursue education for girls in their mountainous home, I was deeply moved. Draped in vibrant colors, which would be banned under the Taliban, she spoke with the innocence of a young girl and the clarity and purpose of someone far more mature.  I couldn’t imagine anyone shooting her.  As I pray for her I am reminded of a Jewish carpenter who elevated the situation of women in the Mediterranean and Greco-Roman world.  Dietrich Bonhoeffer wrote, “Jesus gave women human dignity. . . Prior to Jesus, women were regarded as inferior beings, religiously speaking.”

But not only in relation to religion.  During the time of Jesus, women were usually not educated and often remained indoors. When a girl was born, she was often left to die. Yet the longest conversation recorded between Jesus and another person is in John 4 when he asked the Samaritan woman at the well for a drink to the surprise of his disciples.  He engaged in a deeply theological and personal conversation with her, taking seriously her thoughts and questions. As John Ortberg observed in his book Who is this Man?, “Is it any wonder she could not stop talking about this man? Jesus was doing something very subversive. He was treating a woman like someone who had her own identity.”

Often people teach the story about Mary and Martha in the Bible as a lesson about avoiding busy-ness, but no one in the first century would have seen it that way. “To sit at someone’s feet” meant to be someone’s disciple. Martha did what the culture valued in women, she was busy cooking and cleaning, while Mary did what the culture valued in men.  She became a disciple. And Jesus honored her choice. He invited women to be His disciples.

We value education for our daughters who have never experienced barriers based on gender or otherwise in pursuit of their education, faith and dreams. But it is not enough for me to be grateful for them, I pray this will be the experience of every girl no matter where she is born. 

Tuesday, August 14, 2012

The Eeyore Antidote: Looking at Life through Grace-colored Glasses


Our childhood stories made us feel cozy and warm. While snuggling in a blanket, we were transported to another world learning lessons about life as we listened to a grown-up read to us. I love to enter into story from time to time because stories found in books, film and biography resonate with our lives - the hopes, joys, conflict, dissonance, pain and, sometimes, resolution. In the classic stories of “Winnie the Pooh”, there was a gloomy donkey, Eeyore, who always anticipated a negative outcome.  He never looked at life through rose-colored glasses, although some may say he was simply a realist.  To give him credit, some of his gloom could be attributed to being an introvert who didn’t want to be bothered by intruders, “He turned around angrily on the others and said "Everybody crowds round so in this Forest. There's no Space. I never saw a more Spreading lot of animals in my life, and in all the wrong places."  So that’s my theory.

In our world far from the Hundred-acre Wood, while many of us experience life’s wonders and joys, the stresses of life can threaten our well-being on a consistent basis so we must find a way to deal with the negatives. After our bedtime routine when our girls were young, which, yes, included stories, one of the girls would often come untucked after a scary thought took over her imagination. I would tell her every time to say “God is with me, I am not afraid.” As adults, we can still be fearful of things that go bump in the night. Only they are all too real. News affects us. We face our own trials while living in an unprecedented world of information.  We don’t want to be the Eeyore in the bunch. We must have faith. We face the challenge of sifting through a bombardment of information on a daily basis and must choose what to meditate on. Faith comes from hearing what God is saying to us.  The primary means is through studying the Bible daily. Faith is confidence in what we hope for and assurance about what we do not see. (Hebrews 11:1)  

But where do we place our faith, how does faith play out in our daily lives, and is it simply positive thinking or optimism? Here are a few approaches many take to faith.  Do you recognize yourself in any of these? 


Rose-colored Glasses
Those who chose to look at life through rose-colored glasses view life with optimism.  Here are a few common phrases: Everything will turn out well if you only believe. You can have your best life now if you follow God’s principles.  Look at the bright side. If you make positive confessions, positive things will happen. But rose-colored glasses leave out the tint of suffering, the problem of pain, and taking up our crosses daily as we die to self and live for God. Positive thinking turns faith into a formula, leaving people with a watered-down truth devoid of rich fellowship with God and the power of living beyond ourselves.

Practical Atheism
The practical atheist pays homage to belief in God, but struggles with the dissonance we often encounter in life and within ourselves. Our actions and attitudes don’t always line up with what we say we believe.  So the practical atheist lives out daily life as it God isn’t really intimately concerned with our lives, and as if everything in life is up to them. Such a view makes it possible to go through rote prayer and Bible reading in the morning while living in fear, disappointment and doubt as if God is not in the equation the rest of the day. Developing a fresh, firm foundation on the biblical view of God and who we are in Christ can free people from this truncated view of faith, leading to peace and joy. 

Faith If
God, I will have faith in you if you heal me (my mother, my brother).  If my favorite candidate wins the election.  If I win the gold medal.  If you give me the woman/man of my dreams.  I will have faith if . . .  Faith is sometimes shipwrecked when expectations are not met. God help us. We need to remember that He is God and we are not.

“Let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us, fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith. For the joy set before him he endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God. Consider him who endured such opposition from sinners, so that you will not grow weary and lose heart.” (Heb. 12:1-3)

Grace-colored Glasses
A healthy faith looks at the world and the self through the lens of grace. When we understand the redemptive power of the Gospel through the sinless life of Jesus, His death on the cross for our sin, and his resurrection offering forgiveness and new life to all who believe, everything changes. The dissonance takes on a perspective of grace because His work in us was finished on the cross.  We don’t have to earn our salvation. When the greatest story grips us, we live differently.  We live by faith. And we view the world redemptively.

"Are you tired? Worn out? Burned out on religion? Come to me. Get away with me and you'll recover your life. I'll show you how to take a real rest. Walk with me and work with me—watch how I do it. Learn the unforced rhythms of grace. I won't lay anything heavy or ill-fitting on you. Keep company with me and you'll learn to live freely and lightly." Matt. 11:28-29. (MSG)

“Abounding sin is the terror of the world, but abounding grace is the hope of mankind.” A. W. Tozer

Thursday, March 29, 2012

Slaking our thirst for Resolution: Music, Films and Stories that Resolve


We find satisfaction when music resolves.  Just a tinge at times, but sometimes it goes deep, touching on our need for harmony and resolution.  And when we watch a film with heightened tension and intense conflict, we can have a physical reaction and a sense of euphoria at the end when it resolves.

Have you ever thought about how quickly we move from one experience, unresolved conflict or unexpected circumstance to another often without taking the time to really reflect and process what is going on?  So how do our souls stay nourished and healthy without carrying emotional baggage, becoming bitter or emotionally numb?  We don’t want to end up like Macbeth thinking “Life's but a walking shadow, a poor player that struts and frets his hour upon the stage, and then is heard no more. It is a tale told by an idiot, full of sound and fury, signifying nothing.”  

Our lives are played out with a certain metanarrative or great story in mind, a sort of script in front our eyes.  Our worldview is not always as decisively formed as we would hope to believe because we are subtly influenced by culture, the prevailing winds seeking to knock us off course if we have embraced Christ and the cross.  Every story has conflict, but only through our life in Christ do we experience the strange irony of peaceful resolution right in the midst of our struggles.  And not only that, but a crazy joy, which only makes sense when we consider the might and goodness of our God lovingly leading us through.  However, if we aren’t decisive about what influences us, culture will.  If we don’t make disciples, culture will.  It will prey on our desires, programming us to think we should find instant gratification and quick resolution.  According to Alan Hirsch, we are bombarded by consumerism, deriving our meaning, identity, purpose and belonging through the consumption of products.  

We need to be careful that we disciple people to follow Jesus, not simply to become consumers of Christianity who seek to get their needs met without understanding that Jesus is Lord of our lives.  Discipleship is becoming more and more like Jesus.  Hirsch said “In the Hebrew mind, the way you worship is to obey.”  Disciples are willing to pay the price and obey because they are in love with their Lord.  They aren’t worshiping their own dreams or scripts of how God will meet their needs and fulfill them.  Our sense of meaning, identity, purpose and belonging comes from knowing and following Jesus together with the community of believers.  But it is important to know that as we follow Him we will encounter conflict.  Jesus is in the boat with us through the height of the storm, the cusp of the conflict.  And He is the resolution residing within us.

“And when he got into the boat, his disciples followed him.  And behold, there arose a great storm on the sea, so that the boat was being swamped by the waves; but he was asleep. And they went and woke him, saying, “Save us, Lord; we are perishing.” And he said to them, “Why are you afraid, O you of little faith?” Then he rose and rebuked the winds and the sea, and there was a great calm.  And the men marveled, saying, “What sort of man is this, that even winds and sea obey him?” (Matt. 8:23-27)


The same question applies to us today: why are we afraid, where is our faith?  Let’s get to know the powerful God who became man to save us, who gets in the boat with us and calms the storm.  Our faith isn’t in ourselves, the boat, or the weather patterns.  Our faith is in God Almighty, creator of heaven and earth, and in Jesus our Lord.  

Sometimes our stories don’t resolve in our lifetime.  Dietrich Bonhoeffer was a theologian, a man of great faith, and a co-conspirator to overthrow Hitler.  His hope for resolution extended to the next generation because he was killed only a few weeks before Germany was liberated from Hitler’s diabolical rule.  Concerning Hitler's assuming supreme command over Germany, Eric Metaxas wrote “But now Hindenburg was gone, and the German people found themselves far from shore, alone in a boat with a madman.”  But even in a country ruled by a madman, Jesus is in the boat with those who are His, giving peace, joy and hope.  Bonhoeffer enjoyed a vibrant relationship with Jesus throughout his trials and his life and teachings speak to us today.  

When we experience conflict and trials, we can ask ourselves these questions to find out if our hearts are inclined towards God and if our souls are being nourished by God and His Word.

  • Am I studying the Bible daily?
  • Am I growing closer to God?
  • Do I have a deep understanding of God's presence, power, and love for me?
  • Am I learning to identify with others and comfort them in their trials?
  • Am I learning to love others better?
  • Am I determined to stay the course? 
  • Am I living in community with other believers?
  • Am I a disciple who is making disciples?
  • Is my sense of meaning, identity, purpose and belonging defined by God or the culture around me?
  • Is this a time to re-evaluate and seek the direction God has for me?
And here is where our ultimate hope, our ultimate resolution rests:

“And I heard a loud voice from the throne saying, ‘Behold, the dwelling place of God is with man. He will dwell with them, and they will be his people, and God himself will be with them as their God. He will wipe away every tear from their eyes, and death shall be no more, neither shall there be mourning, nor crying, nor pain anymore, for the former things have passed away.’ And he who was seated on the throne said, ‘Behold, I am making all things new.’ Also he said, ‘Write this down, for these words are trustworthy and true.’ And he said to me, ‘It is done! I am the Alpha and the Omega, the beginning and the end. To the thirsty I will give from the spring of the water of life without payment.’ ”  (Rev. 21:3-6)

Tuesday, February 14, 2012

In Loving Pursuit


"Life's greatest happiness is to be convinced we are loved." -Victor Hugo

How would you make your spouse fall in love with you again if they could not remember you?  Or, more commonly, if they could not forget a time of great difficulty?  “The Vow” is a film loosely based on the true story of a couple who experienced tragedy and had to reclaim love and relationship. Leo and Paige were in a car accident which caused her to suffer memory loss, forgetting the past five years including the time they met, fell in love and married.  Leo sought to win her heart all over again.

This recurring theme, the words of their vows, echoes throughout the film:  “I vow to fiercely love you and all your forms now and forever. I promise never to forget this is a once in a lifetime love ... and no matter what challenges carry us apart we'll always find a way back to each other.” 

What sustains your marriage?  I was thinking about this today.  Several times I have heard people say they married their own perceptions of their spouse.  Then after marriage they found out who the real person was and chose to love that person.  Kind of awkward.  But with us, I don’t think that was the case.  We talk for hours a day sometimes, so when we were dating and engaged we communicated so often on a deep level that we knew one another quite well.  I fell in love with his brilliant mind and caring heart.  He had a glimpse of what was in store when I got out of the car one evening and started dancing down the street, but it was many years before he danced across a pedestrian bridge with me.  And I saw the stressful weight of future responsibility affecting him.  He sometimes says I am a kite and he holds my string.

Our backgrounds provide the framework for different outlooks on life.  His view of family was survival and keeping the peace.  I had a deep sense of security in my family, so our outlook was to enjoy life and explore opportunities.  Our personalities differ as well, but we share love, respect, common interests, a strong commitment to God and one another, and a sense of mission in life.  As Antoine de Saint-Exupery said "Loving is not just looking at each other, it's looking in the same direction." (Note quotes by two French guys in a love article.)  Moreover, we need to be embraced by a God-inspired, God-sized vision for our lives and marriages which fills and sustains us because of Jesus, His love, purpose and grace.

Most of the trials we have endured happened because of our life calling and choices on the mission field in Eastern Europe.  Because we share common goals and hearts to serve in that part of the world, we chose not to allow those hardships to come between us.  But there have been times when extreme difficulty or trials would cause one of us to shut down or shut out the other due to pain, self-protection or misunderstanding.

During such times, a partner has a choice.  Do you seek to pursue your husband or wife in loving ways?  When we do this, love deepens and we learn more about unconditional love, how to meet the needs of another, and we find that we can get past a difficult time.  We find that the feelings return as well.  Date nights or lunches are important, even when life is busy or finances are tight you can plan a date at home or in the beautiful outdoors.  I watch war and spy films with Mike (I really enjoy them), and he enjoys a night at the ballet and an elegant dinner out with me.  Forgiveness is key too.  It seems that every other day there is a news article about a couple getting a divorce because they have grown apart or don’t love one another any more. But what is the foundation for their marriages?  Stay together as long as they have feelings for one another and as long as the other person doesn’t get in the way of their personal goals and happiness?

Dietrich Bonhoeffer, a famous theologian and pastor who died in prison in Nazi Germany before he was able to marry his fiance, wrote "It is not your love that sustains the marriage but ... the marriage that sustains your love."  Our covenant before God is not to be taken lightly, causing two to become one.  When we value marriage as our most important relationship, we consider how our decisions affect our marriage, not just ourselves.   And we take the time to enjoy one another, learning how to meet the needs of one another while we trust God to meet our deepest needs.  Many marriages never deepen to the point of intimate belonging, mutual understanding and compassionate love.
  
Kim Carpenter, the real-life husband who inspired “The Vow” said "We live in a society where vows are constantly broken...Years ago, till death do us part meant the death of a soul mate; today it's the death of a marriage that society has accepted. . . We don't have a story without God.  And that story really is about commitment – commitment to Him and commitment in marriage."  His wife, Krickitt, said, "You have trials in your life and you have to keep persevering."  Another important aspect of a loving, healthy marriage is that it makes our children secure and gives them a strong foundation for their future families.  This is not an insignificant side affect, but an important legacy for generations to follow.  So love up!

Wednesday, January 25, 2012

The Damascus Road Encounter


To have an encounter with, to meet, the omnipotent God instead of merely aligning ourselves with impotent religious traditions and laws is our greatest need today as it was thousands of years ago.  Nothing short of this will change us.  We cannot save ourselves any more than we can give breath to life.

But first we need to be convinced God is real. And not only to be convinced, but to encounter Him personally while on this wonderful, arduous, and often confusing, journey of our lives none of us asked to be on. Even if we are on a determined course in complete opposition to the claims of Jesus Christ.

Like Saul on the road to Damascus.  

The Apostle Paul (whose given name was Saul) wrote a major portion of the New Testament, writings which shaped Christian doctrine.  His brilliant letters shed light on many aspects of faith in Jesus Christ and practical living.  So it may be hard to believe that this man once violently opposed Christianity, entering homes and dragging believers off to prison, casting his vote in hearty agreement to send them to death.

Saul was raised a devout Jew in Palestine, becoming a Pharisee, a scholar and expert on Jewish law.  He thought the claims of Christianity were blasphemous.  How could Jesus claim to be the Son of God?  His life mission was to put a stop to such an insult to the pure faith he cherished.  He was greatly feared by Christians in the region.  When he set off on the road to Damascus, he was determined to imprison anyone in Damascus who believed in Jesus.

Then Saul had an unexpected encounter.  On the road, he met the risen Jesus.  The encounter is described in the Bible:  “As he neared Damascus on his journey, suddenly a light from heaven flashed around him. He fell to the ground and heard a voice say to him, ‘Saul, Saul, why do you persecute me?’ ‘Who are you, Lord?’ Saul asked.  ‘I am Jesus, whom you are persecuting,’ he replied. ‘Now get up and go into the city, and you will be told what you must do.’ ”

The change was dramatic and lasting.  He was blind for a period of days, then began to preach that Jesus was the Son of God and God’s forgiveness boldly in the synagogues. This was a man on fire.  And he had to have known the ramifications since he himself had persecuted followers of Jesus.  He knew he could be killed.  So after being whisked away to safety, he went on to preach the Gospel in city after city. His new name, Paul, means “asked of God” as he had been chosen to reach those outside of the Jewish faith.    

In case we doubt his encounter, consider what he went through for the sake of his faith: He was beaten and imprisoned numerous times, often to the point of death. He was whipped and stoned. He was shipwrecked three times, spending a night and day in the middle of the sea. He was in danger from robbers, spies, wild animals, and enemies who wanted to kill him. He endured starvation, extreme cold, and exposure.  And he suffered these great hardships with joy!

The term "Damascus Road conversion" is now commonly used to refer to an abrupt about-face on a serious issue of religion, philosophy or perhaps politics. But Paul was incapable of accomplishing this about-face, or repentance, without God revealing Himself to him.  While not all encounters with Jesus Christ are so dramatic, His invitation to know Him is given to all.  It may happen during the course of a conversation, reading the Bible, or a moment of desperate prayer.

Jesus is inviting you to encounter Him on the Damascus road today. 

As Paul said: “For I am not ashamed of the gospel, because it is the power of God that brings salvation to everyone who believes: first to the Jew, then to the Gentile.”  (Romans 1:16)

Sunday, January 1, 2012

The World in 2012: 12 Ways to Make a Difference

As we peer into 2012, ringing in the new year, the world is in a state of economic uncertainty and political upheaval.  Hardships persist.  After ringing in the new millenium in Ukraine, a young woman said she was hoping to wake up the next day and find that she and her circumstances were somehow different as if a mystical transformation would take place.  But she was the same.  The same problems stared back at her when she looked in the mirror and she was disappointed.  The transformation we need takes place in our perspectives and in whom we place our trust.  God seeks to embrace us, lift us out of our pain, frustration and deep fatigue and restore our souls.  He encourages us to take hold of faith, clinging to Him who holds our dreams as we believe and work for the seemingly impossible in 2012.

We can draw inspiration from the lives of three individuals in greatly diverse fields who passed away this year leaving legacies of far-reaching impact on our world, changing the way we think, live and interact:  John Stott, a prolific author credited with shaping 20th century evangelical Christianity; Vaclav Havel, Czech playwright, dissident and politician; and Steve Jobs, our modern-day Thomas Edison, innovator and entrepreneur. 

The legacy of John Stott
1.  Make a commitment to study the Bible.

Stott woke up at 5:00 a.m. daily to read the Bible and pray for hundreds of people before breakfast.  For more than 50 years, he read the entire Bible annually.

"We must allow the Word of God to confront us, to disturb our security, to undermine our complacency and to overthrow our patterns of thought and behavior.” – John Stott

2.  Make a commitment to social responsibility, starting with the needs of those around us.

“Social responsibility becomes an aspect not of Christian mission only, but also of Christian conversion. It is impossible to be truly converted to God without being thereby converted to our neighbor.” – John Stott

3.  Mentor others – see the tremendous value and need for mentoring and take the time to do so.

John Stott wrote more than 50 books, crafted the Lausanne Covenant, a defining statement which launched the world evangelical movement, and an Anglican preacher, but many knew him as a mentor who personally and profoundly touched their lives.  Billy Graham considered him a mentor. 

4.  Be salt and light in the world.

“We should not ask, ‘What is wrong with the world?’ for that diagnosis has already been given. Rather we should ask, "What has happened to salt and light?" – John Stott

5.  Learn how to communicate effectively and clearly.

"He wasn't Billy Graham," Richard J. Mouw, president of Fuller Theological Seminary said, "but he just exuded wisdom. He was able to take difficult topics and make them plain for people who are not all that tuned in to high-level intellectual discussion, yet he had the respect of scholars. He was one of those bridge figures."

The legacy of Vaclav Havel
6.  Stand up for what is right, even if it may cost you.

A playwright, politician, dissident and intellectual, Havel gained international fame with Charter 77, a human rights manifesto which led to multiple imprisonments by the communist regime.

7.  Be humble.

“As soon as man began considering himself the source of the highest meaning in the world and the measure of everything, the world began to lose its human dimension, and man began to lose control of it.” – Vaclav Havel

8.  Keep your joy and child-like wonder.  Be an artist, in the classic sense or otherwise.

Havel was known to roller skate in the palace in Prague.

9.  When confronted with lies and hatred, respond with truth and love.

Havel may best be remembered as a symbol of democracy and freedom who once said "truth and love must prevail over lies and hatred".

The legacy of Steve Jobs
10.   Use your abilities to make a difference in the world.  Be innovative, while maintaining focus and simplicity.

Or as Jobs said he desired to “make a dent in the universe”.   It would be difficult to overstate the impact of his life and legacy.  I don't think many of us would know how to go back to a world without Apple products.

11.  Stay married to your spouse.

Jobs did that as well.  This has a greater impact on our world than we may realize and affects generations.       

12.  Follow your heart and passions in life.  Don’t just settle.

And so I end with these words . . .
"Here's to the crazy ones, the misfits, the rebels, the troublemakers, the round pegs in the square holes... the ones who see things differently -- they're not fond of rules... You can quote them, disagree with them, glorify or vilify them, but the only thing you can't do is ignore them because they change things... they push the human race forward, and while some may see them as the crazy ones, we see genius, because the ones who are crazy enough to think that they can change the world, are the ones who do." – Steve Jobs

What will be your legacy?  Endeavor to make a difference in 2012.  And may it be by the grace of Jesus Christ, bringing honor to God.

Tuesday, December 13, 2011

Comfort and Joy

Telling stories breathes life into them, habitations built with words instead of brick and mortar.  I remember as Christmas approached during my early childhood we would deck the halls, then my father would lift me into his arms and carry me around to see the dazzling ornaments, especially the ones too high for me to enjoy from afar.  He would talk about the meaning of the nativity, the angels, and the lights.  The wonder of traditions steeped in meaning instilled a deep sense of peace, joy and belonging – a sense of belonging to something far greater and profound than my tiny life, yet intimate, loving and near. And when I went to bed, visions of sugarplums danced in my head.  And lyrics to songs of joy, “let every heart prepare Him room”, started to form a habitation for Jesus Christ in my heart.

Over the years I recreated meaningful holidays for our girls as we have lived in other countries.  When they were young in Ukraine, we would sled and play in the snow, then get toasty by the fire with mugs of hot chocolate while singing carols by candlelight.  Ukraine is a magical place for children during the Christmas season because you celebrate Christmas twice.  We celebrated with our family and expat friends in December and with Ukrainian friends during Orthodox Christmas in January.  In recent years, one young Ukrainian woman was especially touched by the warmth of love and joyful celebration.

Lilia grew up without a father and decided to become an atheist as a girl because religion was devoid of meaning for her.  She stayed away from religious people, thinking they were irrelevant and dictatorial.  So she made a brave step one day to join our discussion group at a cafe just before the holiday season began.  She knew no one in the group, but fit in immediately.  Lilia possessed a sharp mind and wit, and was always ready to engage in our lively discussions about character, truth, and the meaning of life.  Whenever she would debate, she had the most winning smile.  I once mentioned to her that even if a person disagreed with her, they would love her smile.  

“Oh, but I am not usually this way,” she said.  “I am just so happy when I am here.  I never knew Christians could be so normal and talk about the questions I have about life in a real, meaningful way.”

We invited her to our Christmas party where we sang about the One who gives meaning to life.  And as the lights lit up the tree, she knew a light was beginning to illuminate her mind and heart for the first time.  “I am beginning to change how I view things,” she said one day.  “I know now that God is real.”  She began to see that the Christian creation, fall, redemption account made sense and shed light on her questions about life.  C. S. Lewis wrote that he believed in God “as I believe the sun has risen, not only because I see it, but because by it I see everything else.” Building a relationship with Lilia, caring for her, and engaging her in the deep questions she had about life and God, was a supernaturally natural experience.  God touched her as only He can, but she felt the freedom to be accepted and cared for by us whether or not she accepted what we were saying.  

God is the ultimate Playwright who has written clues about Himself into the universe and into the intricacies of our hearts, and our stories begin to make sense in light of the wonderful miracle of His story we celebrate during this season. 

“ ‘She will give birth to a son, and you are to give him the name Jesus, because he will save his people from their sins.’  All this took place to fulfill what the Lord had said through the prophet:  ‘The virgin will conceive and give birth to a son, and they will call him Immanuel’ ” (which means “God with us”) Matthew 1:23

Wednesday, December 7, 2011

The Greatness of Goodness

“You are the light of the world. A town built on a hill cannot be hidden. Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl. Instead they put it on its stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven.”    (Matt. 5:14)

The power of a good deed is sometimes underestimated. We often think only the most heroic deeds and individuals are worthy of mention. While reading “The Rise and Fall of the Third Reich” I often thought of the indomitable stand Churchill took against the aggressive evil of Hitler. A person of great courage, wit and leadership, he stated “a man does what he must - in spite of personal consequences, in spite of obstacles and dangers and pressures - and that is the basis of all human morality.” As a leader, he took a stand against the greatest evil of his day and would not negotiate or back down. He did what he must.

But in the context of our daily lives, how often do people do what they must in spite of personal consequences, obstacles, dangers and pressures? The act of a person helping a man who had been robbed and injured may seem small, but Jesus considered it significant enough to use the parable of the good Samaritan as an example. In this biblical parable it was a member of the despised race of the day, a Samaritan, who helped a man who was left for dead by the roadside and not the two religious leaders who passed him by. The religious leaders probably talked about doing good deeds, but they were too busy or unaware to help someone in need. Or perhaps they thought they were above it. Our light shines against the dark backdrop of this world with all of its evil, problems and desperation through our ACTIONS, not just our words.

After relating the parable Jesus asked “Which of these three do you think was a neighbor to the man who fell into the hands of robbers?” The expert in the law replied, “The one who had mercy on him.” Jesus told him, “Go and do likewise.” (Luke 10:36-37)

We can follow the example of the Good Samaritan, who did the following:
  1. He was aware of the person in need and was not too caught up in his own life to notice.
  2. He helped the person in need, going out of his way to do so.
  3. He took responsibility to follow through.
  4. He committed his time and resources to help.
A poor boy from a remote mountain village ran into his burning house to rescue his younger brother from the flames. He suffered severe burns, but his family had no money for shoes and basic needs, let alone medical treatment. Through providing treatment, comfort and care the door to reaching many in his and other mountain villages opened to my friend Nadia in Ukraine. As a missionary in Asia and Eastern Europe, I have experienced firsthand how important our actions are in reaching people. The supremacy of Christ and the centrality of the Gospel are not only compatible with social responsibility, they are inseparable. In the western world as well, economic instability is creating a culture in greater need of personal, compassionate touch.

Such acts of mercy or compassion can be carried out by anyone. Acts of compassion are powerful and can provide opportunities to build relational bridges in nations rife with poverty, racial tension and injustice. When played out against the backdrop of evil, these simple acts are truly great and can open the door for opportunities to communicate the truth of God because we have demonstrated the love of God. But acts of compassion can cost us greatly because we become involved in the lives of the desperate and needy of this world. In so doing we identify with Christ and are strengthened by His love and grace, receiving much in return.

Silent Injustice

Injustice screams in silence
Because we deafen our ears
We stare, incredulous
And walk by
Disbelief blinding us from
An evil we can’t reconcile
With our dream bubble

Yet we create
A tempest in a teapot
Over traffic, delays, offenses
Mere trifles

Injustice, can you scream louder?
Because children are dying
I said, injustice can you scream louder?
Children are suffering,
Dying
Here in the devil’s playground

Sunday, October 30, 2011

Facing Challenges with a Faith-Growth Mindset


Scarcity or Abundance?
Many strive to be well-known, successful in the their field and reach “the top”.  And in an environment where this is lauded, you often see a few people who are up front and they remain static, you don’t see a new crop of talented people emerging. Actually, there is a study which proves that praising intelligence and talent doesn’t foster self-esteem and accomplishment, but jeopardizes them.  In this environment, people think they are entitled to their positions and lose perspective, while new or younger people are afraid to try thinking they may fail and miss the mark of being labeled one of the "talented" or "smart" ones.  This alienates people instead of creating an environment for healthy growth and mentoring relationships.  In short, there is scarcity of opportunity instead of abundance. This type of organization fosters a fixed mindset. Churches can be this way.  So can schools.  The very places in greatest need of tenderly nourishing and encouraging growth.

All for One, One for All
The other perspective is that there are unlimited possibilities for everyone to make a difference and to do something significant with their lives for a greater purpose, to honor the God who created them. In a growth mindset, people believe that their most basic abilities can be developed through dedication and hard work—intelligence and talent (or giftedness) are just the beginning.  This perspective creates a love of learning and a resilience essential for great achievement.  The infinite-personal God gives us the gift of a life of purpose uniquely our own, but connected with the body of Christ. We can encounter challenges with courage and self-worth, and grow through them. And we can mentor and encourage the next generation to become all that they can be without fear of losing our positions.

Two Mindsets: Fixed or Growth
I talk with people who have destructive mindsets, leaving them in a fog of discouragement and morass of unrealized dreams when they encounter challenges. Emerging on the other shore ready to zealously explore new territories takes more than wishful thinking and Oprah-esque tips for self-improvement. True enlightenment comes from God and knowing His perspective of ourselves, our challenges and where we should go from here.

Carol Dweck, Stanford psychologist and author of “Mindset”, a book about a fundamental difference in thinking found that aptitude and raw talent have little to do with how far children will journey in life when they reach adulthood. Furthermore, she found that how people respond to challenges and failure depends, not on their failure, but on their mindset. A fixed mindset leads you to think that failure is enduring and defines your self-worth and abilities. A growth mindset leads you to embrace challenges and put forth effort in order to learn and grow, while seeing your self-worth as separate from success or failure.
People who embrace the fixed mindset, or unknowingly live in its grip, think in the following ways:
  • I am either talented or gifted or not. I can do nothing to change this.
  • If I fail, this proves I am not one of the gifted/talented people.
  • I should only attempt things that are a sure thing.
  • I am afraid someone will come along who is more talented or smarter than I am.
  • Criticism reinforces that I am a failure and unworthy.
  • Intelligence is static.
People who embrace the growth mindset think in the following ways:
  • I embrace challenges because they will make me stronger.
  • My self-image is not tied to how I appear to others or to success.
  • Doing anything well requires effort.
  • I can enjoy the process of growing and learning and eventually master skills.
  • Feedback from others will help me improve.
  • Intelligence can be developed.
Developing a New Mindset: A Faith-Growth Mindset
We can develop a Faith-Growth mindset which places our hope in God and knowing He is working in our lives and our world, while realizing it takes effort and continuous learning to get where we need to go and overcome the challenges we face in life. We can be encouraged by the faith hall of famers in Hebrews chapter 11 in the Bible who persevered and accomplished great things even though they suffered and did not finish all that they set out to do in their lifetimes. The legacy of faith was passed on to the next generation, and to us. 
Jesus stated it well with this simple, powerful phrase: “With God, all things are possible”.

It’s Not About Us Anyway
As Count Zinzenndorf, founder of the Moravian Church, said, “Preach the gospel, die and be forgotten.”
There is great comfort in losing ourselves for something greater than ourselves. For a greater cause, a greater purpose than our own egos, for the fame of someone who is altogether worthy of the worship of our hearts and commitment of our lives.

Thursday, January 6, 2011

Vision: Formation and Development

A vision is often born out of a concern that something is not as it should be and someone should rectify it. And then the person who has the audacity to think such thoughts realizes they are the man or the woman to see it through; not do it all, but to see it through. It becomes a stewardship, a passion which must be developed into a plan in order to mature and become reality. When played out against the creation – fall –redemption narrative of our world, compassionate vision is necessary to see potential in people, in relationships, in culture, in every sphere.


Embracing a vision sometimes requires stepping outside of our fear, insecurity and pride. To adopt an HIV positive child of another race. To pursue a new business venture. To speak out in the face of injustice. To ask for forgiveness and work on a difficult marriage. To reach out to a group of people who have a different lifestyle. To make a contribution, but remain anonymous.


Living in the former Soviet Union provides a multitude of opportunities for vision because there are needs everywhere you turn, so it becomes vital to focus our efforts. I wrote the following in response to my friend Nadia Povalinska’s amazing photograph (above). You may feel the same way when you are carrying a vision.


The Visionary


The disparity between vision and realization

The now and the not yet

The real and the ideal

Could lead to slight insanity

And despair

If it were not for God

If it were not for heaven


From where else do we derive this sense

Of perfect love

Perfect beauty

Perfect truth?


When I’m lost in a haze

Searching for peace

Wanting to find that place

Where earth and sky meet

He whispers in the still moments

At His feet

It’s through the humble door

Of My loving, boundless, extravagant

Grace


We first consider what should be done, then how. Here are a few practical building blocks for vision from Andy Stanley’s book Visioneering. He uses the term “visioneering” to mean the engineering of a vision and uses the example of Nehemiah who heard about the devastation of Israel and set out with compassion, determination and a plan to do something about it.


  1. A vision begins as a concern
  2. A vision does not necessarily require immediate action
  3. Pray for opportunities and plan as if you expect God to answer your prayers
  4. God is using your circumstances to position and prepare you to accomplish His vision for your life
  5. What God originates, he orchestrates
  6. Walk before you talk; investigate before you initiate
  7. Communicate and cast your vision to the appropriate people at the appropriate time
  8. Don’t expect others to take greater risks or make greater sacrifices than you have
  9. Don’t confuse your plans with God’s vision
  10. Visions are refined – they don’t change; plans are revised – they rarely stay the same
  11. Respond to criticism with prayer, remembrance and if necessary, a revision of the plan
  12. Visions thrive in an environment of unity; they die in an environment of division
  13. Abandon the vision before you abandon your moral authority
  14. Don’t get distracted
  15. There is divine potential in all you envision to do
  16. The end of a God-ordained vision is God
  17. Maintaining a vision requires adherence to a set of core beliefs and behaviors
  18. Visions require constant attention
  19. Maintaining a vision requires bold leadership

Sunday, January 2, 2011

One Resolution: Faith in a Faithful God

As we celebrated the New Year at Maidan (Independence Square) in Kiev with thousands of jubilant people I thought if the euphoric hope for a better year could be bottled and sold on grim days it would significantly boost the economy. But wishes and good cheer do not lead to improvement. After the countdown to the new year, the clock keeps on ticking and we find ourselves going somewhere in life – good or bad. We can’t stand there forever in the glow of fireworks and falling snow. We can’t wish our difficulties away, wave a magic wand, and wake up different. It is wise to evaluate where we are in our relationships, finances, careers and goals and set our compass for the best destination. But how?

Trust in God and His faithfulness
I met a university student for coffee a few days ago. She said she and her boyfriend had been talking about how our family always seems happy. “You must have difficulties too,” she said. “What is your secret?” I said we definitely go through difficulties, but we have joy which doesn’t depend on our circumstances because we trust in God. But this kind of trust means to cling to, rely on and place everything in God’s hands because of who He is. This trust grows because we have seen His faithfulness over the years.

Obey Him
You can’t just say you trust God, you have to set your priorities, goals, and lifestyle according to His ways. When we go our own way in disregard of His commandments, we shouldn’t be surprised when we get in trouble. The word “obey” causes the modern man to bristle, but if we have settled the idea that God exists and is a rewarder of those who seek Him (Heb 11:6) , we can see the wisdom of obedience. Troubles sometimes happen when we do obey God, but we enjoy His pleasure and nearness in the midst of them.
Psalm 23

Cultivate Faith, not Fatalism
In general, people have reasons for not believing or trying: things didn’t work out before, they have special circumstances, you don’t understand how bad things are in their nation, etc. But we don’t get anywhere worth going without faith. When we envision anything worth going persuing, faith is the fuel which keeps us joyfully moving ahead. We have to cultivate faith and protect it or we could wander in the wilderness just outside of our Promised Land in a malignant holding pattern of doubt and bitterness. How do you feel when you spend time with someone who has an infectious, joyful faith? Encouraged? Energized? You can be sure they have habits which keep their faith strong. You can develop those habits.

Let’s set our moral compass toward God and accomplish great things this year by faith.

“With the goodness of God to desire our highest welfare, the wisdom of God to plan it, and the power of God to achieve it, what do we lack? Surely we are the most favored of all creatures.”
Tozer

Sunday, April 18, 2010

The Need for Life Coaching

I’m sitting in this posh coffee shop feeling like I am not in Kiev for the moment, except for the smoke wafting through the air. I am supposed to be enjoying London and attending a training conference to learn how to effectively coach people in life and ministry. Instead, an unpronounceable volcano in Iceland erupted, spewing out ash directly in our flight pattern and so I sit. And ponder. And let my thoughts wander and hopefully coalesce into a blog post.

I think back to a few months ago when, after leaving this coffee shop, I had an epiphany (epiphanies often occur after coffee): all of our LIFE+ English Clubs for Ukrainian students fit in the category of life coaching through conversational English. We primarily cover topics on leadership, relationships and life issues. Then I considered what was lacking in this nation, and that was it. People yearn for and need mentoring in these areas. I knew we were on to something that had the potential to reach a generation.

My world intersects with Kiev street kids about twice a month when I take some Russian-speaking youth from an international Christian school to interact with the kids at a shelter. The kids are brought to this government shelter from the street and they cannot leave until they are relocated. The guys often play sports with the guys there, then eat and hang out with them. Sometimes we plan discussions on practical and spiritual topics. The girls do crafts, dance hip hop and also have similar discussions. But at times the place can be intimidating and it is easy to feel that our efforts are so minimal when these kids’ lives are so tough. I was considering ending this outreach in May because I had not developed a full program that met my level of satisfaction and accomplishment.

So last week, on the verge on quitting, I took a group to the shelter. And while I was there, the woman in charge of the day to day happenings stopped me and said that we were their favorite group. I asked her why, since our outreach was so simple. She said, “You don’t understand. Adults come here and lecture. They come in with programs, but you are the only one who is bringing young people who can relate to them. They see them as examples.” I realized that what we were doing, simple as it was, was tremendously powerful because we cared enough to connect and relate to these often forgotten kids. I also realized that something inside of me was not allowing me to celebrate success until it reached a level that I deemed good enough. A weight fell off of me as I left and celebrated the good in what we were doing.

Young people need loving mentoring. And we who are trying to make a difference in their lives need to embrace the value in it.  Many missed out on mentoring in their own lives, but it is possible to break the cycle of relational neglect and get involved on an intimate level with some of the people around us who can learn from us.  Attending a conference or listening to a speaker is not enough. There has been a paradigm shift away from top-down, up front ministry to relational, engaging, interactive ministry.

Here is one effective way to approach mentoring others. In preparation for this training in London, I read “Coaching 101” by Robert Logan and Sherilyn Carlton. There is a specific coaching process they lay out in their book. Here is the process with accompanying questions:

Relate

How are you doing? Where are you now? How can I be praying for you? What do you want to address? How can we work together?

Reflect

What can we celebrate? What’s really important? What obstacles are you facing? Where do you want to go? How committed are you?

Refocus

What do you want to accomplish? What are possible ways to get there? Which path will you choose? What will you do (who, what, when, where, how)? How will you measure your progress?

Resource

What resources will you need to accomplish your goals (people, finances, knowledge, etc.)? What resources do you already have? Where will you find the resources you need? What can I do to support you?

Review

What’s working? What’s not working? What are you learning? What needs to change? What else needs to be done? What further training would be helpful?

Wouldn’t you have loved to sit down with someone at some point in your life and have them ask you these questions over a period of weeks and really listen? Maybe you need that right now. And there are probably people in your life who need it right now. You don’t have to know all the answers to be effective in helping others grow.

Saturday, January 2, 2010

Got Hunger?

As I’ve perused best and worst lists of the past decade, and political and economic journalists doling out grim forecasts for Ukraine I have reflected and thought about having great expectations for the next decade.

What were your memorable moments and milestones of the past decade? What are you looking forward to in the next? Do you think the best days are in the past?


If so, I pray God will lift you up to a place of faith and hunger for Him. It is far better to start the day with joyful expectation of the goodness of God, daring to believe, dream and walk it out by faith. Let’s cultivate the anticipation of a child on Christmas morning, but not for material things.

I was thinking about momentum and what is the impetus that sets life in motion in a positive direction. And then what causes life to continue in motion towards something positive without detours or bad trips to undesirable places, no stopping by the side of the road with head down in despair. And it seemed faith was the impetus. But then there seemed to be something more fundamental, more raw and essential. And that essential is the heart captured in worship of God and all that He is in His greatness and lovingkindness. Then faith to do a certain thing or move forward in a specific direction has its place because we are close enough to God to know His heartbeat and fight discouragement. “So faith comes from hearing, and hearing by the word of Christ.”

(Romans 10:17)

But I didn’t stay there. I began to think about what keeps people from that fundamental place of living out a life of devotion to God, being satisfied in Him. So that led me to think about hunger itself. Every human being on the face of the earth hungers in their soul. So the question is, what do you pursue and does it make you dull towards God? If you seek satisfaction in things other than God (material possessions, personal success, status, harmful addictions, etc.) you may not realize your deficit at first, but they will leave you empty.

So I leave you with a challenge: Don’t start with the usual New Year’s resolutions or goal-setting. Begin the year by setting your heart right. Consider praying and fasting and commit to the basics, like reading the Bible. When our hearts are rightly set, good things will follow and we can recognize them.

Do those things that cause you to flourish in God.

"Come, all you who are thirsty, come to the waters; and you who have no money, come, buy and eat! Come, buy wine and milk without money and without cost. Why spend money on what is not bread, and your labor on what does not satisfy? Listen, listen to me, and eat what is good, and your soul will delight in the richest of fare. Give ear and come to me; hear me, that your soul may live. I will make an everlasting covenant with you, my faithful love promised to David.”

(Isaiah 55:1-3)

"Be strong and let your heart take courage, all you who wait for and hope for and expect the Lord!" (Psalm 31:24)