Thursday, October 11, 2012
One Girl's Fight for Education and Hope in a Beautiful, Mountain Valley
Tuesday, August 14, 2012
The Eeyore Antidote: Looking at Life through Grace-colored Glasses
Thursday, March 29, 2012
Slaking our thirst for Resolution: Music, Films and Stories that Resolve
The same question applies to us today: why are we afraid, where is our faith? Let’s get to know the powerful God who became man to save us, who gets in the boat with us and calms the storm. Our faith isn’t in ourselves, the boat, or the weather patterns. Our faith is in God Almighty, creator of heaven and earth, and in Jesus our Lord.
- Am I studying the Bible daily?
- Am I growing closer to God?
- Do I have a deep understanding of God's presence, power, and love for me?
- Am I learning to identify with others and comfort them in their trials?
- Am I learning to love others better?
- Am I determined to stay the course?
- Am I living in community with other believers?
- Am I a disciple who is making disciples?
- Is my sense of meaning, identity, purpose and belonging defined by God or the culture around me?
- Is this a time to re-evaluate and seek the direction God has for me?
Tuesday, February 14, 2012
In Loving Pursuit
Wednesday, January 25, 2012
The Damascus Road Encounter
To have an encounter with, to meet, the omnipotent God instead of merely aligning ourselves with impotent religious traditions and laws is our greatest need today as it was thousands of years ago. Nothing short of this will change us. We cannot save ourselves any more than we can give breath to life.Sunday, January 1, 2012
The World in 2012: 12 Ways to Make a Difference
As we peer into 2012, ringing in the new year, the world is in a state of economic uncertainty and political upheaval. Hardships persist. After ringing in the new millenium in Ukraine, a young woman said she was hoping to wake up the next day and find that she and her circumstances were somehow different as if a mystical transformation would take place. But she was the same. The same problems stared back at her when she looked in the mirror and she was disappointed. The transformation we need takes place in our perspectives and in whom we place our trust. God seeks to embrace us, lift us out of our pain, frustration and deep fatigue and restore our souls. He encourages us to take hold of faith, clinging to Him who holds our dreams as we believe and work for the seemingly impossible in 2012."We must allow the Word of God to confront us, to disturb our security, to undermine our complacency and to overthrow our patterns of thought and behavior.” – John Stott
Tuesday, December 13, 2011
Comfort and Joy
Wednesday, December 7, 2011
The Greatness of Goodness
“You are the light of the world. A town built on a hill cannot be hidden. Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl. Instead they put it on its stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven.” (Matt. 5:14)- He was aware of the person in need and was not too caught up in his own life to notice.
- He helped the person in need, going out of his way to do so.
- He took responsibility to follow through.
- He committed his time and resources to help.
With our dream bubble
Injustice, can you scream louder?
I said, injustice can you scream louder?
Sunday, October 30, 2011
Facing Challenges with a Faith-Growth Mindset

All for One, One for All
Carol Dweck, Stanford psychologist and author of “Mindset”, a book about a fundamental difference in thinking found that aptitude and raw talent have little to do with how far children will journey in life when they reach adulthood. Furthermore, she found that how people respond to challenges and failure depends, not on their failure, but on their mindset. A fixed mindset leads you to think that failure is enduring and defines your self-worth and abilities. A growth mindset leads you to embrace challenges and put forth effort in order to learn and grow, while seeing your self-worth as separate from success or failure.
- I am either talented or gifted or not. I can do nothing to change this.
- If I fail, this proves I am not one of the gifted/talented people.
- I should only attempt things that are a sure thing.
- I am afraid someone will come along who is more talented or smarter than I am.
- Criticism reinforces that I am a failure and unworthy.
- Intelligence is static.
- I embrace challenges because they will make me stronger.
- My self-image is not tied to how I appear to others or to success.
- Doing anything well requires effort.
- I can enjoy the process of growing and learning and eventually master skills.
- Feedback from others will help me improve.
- Intelligence can be developed.
Thursday, January 6, 2011
Vision: Formation and Development

A vision is often born out of a concern that something is not as it should be and someone should rectify it. And then the person who has the audacity to think such thoughts realizes they are the man or the woman to see it through; not do it all, but to see it through. It becomes a stewardship, a passion which must be developed into a plan in order to mature and become reality. When played out against the creation – fall –redemption narrative of our world, compassionate vision is necessary to see potential in people, in relationships, in culture, in every sphere.
Embracing a vision sometimes requires stepping outside of our fear, insecurity and pride. To adopt an HIV positive child of another race. To pursue a new business venture. To speak out in the face of injustice. To ask for forgiveness and work on a difficult marriage. To reach out to a group of people who have a different lifestyle. To make a contribution, but remain anonymous.
Living in the former Soviet Union provides a multitude of opportunities for vision because there are needs everywhere you turn, so it becomes vital to focus our efforts. I wrote the following in response to my friend Nadia Povalinska’s amazing photograph (above). You may feel the same way when you are carrying a vision.
The Visionary
The disparity between vision and realization
The now and the not yet
The real and the ideal
Could lead to slight insanity
And despair
If it were not for God
If it were not for heaven
From where else do we derive this sense
Of perfect love
Perfect beauty
Perfect truth?
When I’m lost in a haze
Searching for peace
Wanting to find that place
Where earth and sky meet
He whispers in the still moments
At His feet
It’s through the humble door
Of My loving, boundless, extravagant
Grace
We first consider what should be done, then how. Here are a few practical building blocks for vision from Andy Stanley’s book Visioneering. He uses the term “visioneering” to mean the engineering of a vision and uses the example of Nehemiah who heard about the devastation of Israel and set out with compassion, determination and a plan to do something about it.
- A vision begins as a concern
- A vision does not necessarily require immediate action
- Pray for opportunities and plan as if you expect God to answer your prayers
- God is using your circumstances to position and prepare you to accomplish His vision for your life
- What God originates, he orchestrates
- Walk before you talk; investigate before you initiate
- Communicate and cast your vision to the appropriate people at the appropriate time
- Don’t expect others to take greater risks or make greater sacrifices than you have
- Don’t confuse your plans with God’s vision
- Visions are refined – they don’t change; plans are revised – they rarely stay the same
- Respond to criticism with prayer, remembrance and if necessary, a revision of the plan
- Visions thrive in an environment of unity; they die in an environment of division
- Abandon the vision before you abandon your moral authority
- Don’t get distracted
- There is divine potential in all you envision to do
- The end of a God-ordained vision is God
- Maintaining a vision requires adherence to a set of core beliefs and behaviors
- Visions require constant attention
- Maintaining a vision requires bold leadership
Sunday, January 2, 2011
One Resolution: Faith in a Faithful God
As we celebrated the New Year at Maidan (Independence Square) in Kiev with thousands of jubilant people I thought if the euphoric hope for a better year could be bottled and sold on grim days it would significantly boost the economy. But wishes and good cheer do not lead to improvement. After the countdown to the new year, the clock keeps on ticking and we find ourselves going somewhere in life – good or bad. We can’t stand there forever in the glow of fireworks and falling snow. We can’t wish our difficulties away, wave a magic wand, and wake up different. It is wise to evaluate where we are in our relationships, finances, careers and goals and set our compass for the best destination. But how?Trust in God and His faithfulness
I met a university student for coffee a few days ago. She said she and her boyfriend had been talking about how our family always seems happy. “You must have difficulties too,” she said. “What is your secret?” I said we definitely go through difficulties, but we have joy which doesn’t depend on our circumstances because we trust in God. But this kind of trust means to cling to, rely on and place everything in God’s hands because of who He is. This trust grows because we have seen His faithfulness over the years.
Obey Him
You can’t just say you trust God, you have to set your priorities, goals, and lifestyle according to His ways. When we go our own way in disregard of His commandments, we shouldn’t be surprised when we get in trouble. The word “obey” causes the modern man to bristle, but if we have settled the idea that God exists and is a rewarder of those who seek Him (Heb 11:6) , we can see the wisdom of obedience. Troubles sometimes happen when we do obey God, but we enjoy His pleasure and nearness in the midst of them.
Psalm 23
Cultivate Faith, not Fatalism
In general, people have reasons for not believing or trying: things didn’t work out before, they have special circumstances, you don’t understand how bad things are in their nation, etc. But we don’t get anywhere worth going without faith. When we envision anything worth going persuing, faith is the fuel which keeps us joyfully moving ahead. We have to cultivate faith and protect it or we could wander in the wilderness just outside of our Promised Land in a malignant holding pattern of doubt and bitterness. How do you feel when you spend time with someone who has an infectious, joyful faith? Encouraged? Energized? You can be sure they have habits which keep their faith strong. You can develop those habits.
Let’s set our moral compass toward God and accomplish great things this year by faith.
“With the goodness of God to desire our highest welfare, the wisdom of God to plan it, and the power of God to achieve it, what do we lack? Surely we are the most favored of all creatures.”
Tozer
Sunday, April 18, 2010
The Need for Life Coaching
I’m sitting in this posh coffee shop feeling like I am not in Kiev for the moment, except for the smoke wafting through the air. I am supposed to be enjoying London and attending a training conference to learn how to effectively coach people in life and ministry. Instead, an unpronounceable volcano in Iceland erupted, spewing out ash directly in our flight pattern and so I sit. And ponder. And let my thoughts wander and hopefully coalesce into a blog post. I think back to a few months ago when, after leaving this coffee shop, I had an epiphany (epiphanies often occur after coffee): all of our LIFE+ English Clubs for Ukrainian students fit in the category of life coaching through conversational English. We primarily cover topics on leadership, relationships and life issues. Then I considered what was lacking in this nation, and that was it. People yearn for and need mentoring in these areas. I knew we were on to something that had the potential to reach a generation.
My world intersects with Kiev street kids about twice a month when I take some Russian-speaking youth from an international Christian school to interact with the kids at a shelter. The kids are brought to this government shelter from the street and they cannot leave until they are relocated. The guys often play sports with the guys there, then eat and hang out with them. Sometimes we plan discussions on practical and spiritual topics. The girls do crafts, dance hip hop and also have similar discussions. But at times the place can be intimidating and it is easy to feel that our efforts are so minimal when these kids’ lives are so tough. I was considering ending this outreach in May because I had not developed a full program that met my level of satisfaction and accomplishment.
So last week, on the verge on quitting, I took a group to the shelter. And while I was there, the woman in charge of the day to day happenings stopped me and said that we were their favorite group. I asked her why, since our outreach was so simple. She said, “You don’t understand. Adults come here and lecture. They come in with programs, but you are the only one who is bringing young people who can relate to them. They see them as examples.” I realized that what we were doing, simple as it was, was tremendously powerful because we cared enough to connect and relate to these often forgotten kids. I also realized that something inside of me was not allowing me to celebrate success until it reached a level that I deemed good enough. A weight fell off of me as I left and celebrated the good in what we were doing.
Young people need loving mentoring. And we who are trying to make a difference in their lives need to embrace the value in it. Many missed out on mentoring in their own lives, but it is possible to break the cycle of relational neglect and get involved on an intimate level with some of the people around us who can learn from us. Attending a conference or listening to a speaker is not enough. There has been a paradigm shift away from top-down, up front ministry to relational, engaging, interactive ministry.
Here is one effective way to approach mentoring others. In preparation for this training in London, I read “Coaching 101” by Robert Logan and Sherilyn Carlton. There is a specific coaching process they lay out in their book. Here is the process with accompanying questions:
Relate
How are you doing? Where are you now? How can I be praying for you? What do you want to address? How can we work together?
Reflect
What can we celebrate? What’s really important? What obstacles are you facing? Where do you want to go? How committed are you?
Refocus
What do you want to accomplish? What are possible ways to get there? Which path will you choose? What will you do (who, what, when, where, how)? How will you measure your progress?
Resource
What resources will you need to accomplish your goals (people, finances, knowledge, etc.)? What resources do you already have? Where will you find the resources you need? What can I do to support you?
Review
What’s working? What’s not working? What are you learning? What needs to change? What else needs to be done? What further training would be helpful?
Wouldn’t you have loved to sit down with someone at some point in your life and have them ask you these questions over a period of weeks and really listen? Maybe you need that right now. And there are probably people in your life who need it right now. You don’t have to know all the answers to be effective in helping others grow.
Saturday, January 2, 2010
Got Hunger?
As I’ve perused best and worst lists of the past decade, and political and economic journalists doling out grim forecasts for Ukraine I have reflected and thought about having great expectations for the next decade.What were your memorable moments and milestones of the past decade? What are you looking forward to in the next? Do you think the best days are in the past?
If so, I pray God will lift you up to a place of faith and hunger for Him. It is far better to start the day with joyful expectation of the goodness of God, daring to believe, dream and walk it out by faith. Let’s cultivate the anticipation of a child on Christmas morning, but not for material things.
I was thinking about momentum and what is the impetus that sets life in motion in a positive direction. And then what causes life to continue in motion towards something positive without detours or bad trips to undesirable places, no stopping by the side of the road with head down in despair. And it seemed faith was the impetus. But then there seemed to be something more fundamental, more raw and essential. And that essential is the heart captured in worship of God and all that He is in His greatness and lovingkindness. Then faith to do a certain thing or move forward in a specific direction has its place because we are close enough to God to know His heartbeat and fight discouragement. “So faith comes from hearing, and hearing by the word of Christ.”
(Romans 10:17)
But I didn’t stay there. I began to think about what keeps people from that fundamental place of living out a life of devotion to God, being satisfied in Him. So that led me to think about hunger itself. Every human being on the face of the earth hungers in their soul. So the question is, what do you pursue and does it make you dull towards God? If you seek satisfaction in things other than God (material possessions, personal success, status, harmful addictions, etc.) you may not realize your deficit at first, but they will leave you empty.
So I leave you with a challenge: Don’t start with the usual New Year’s resolutions or goal-setting. Begin the year by setting your heart right. Consider praying and fasting and commit to the basics, like reading the Bible. When our hearts are rightly set, good things will follow and we can recognize them.
Do those things that cause you to flourish in God.
"Come, all you who are thirsty, come to the waters; and you who have no money, come, buy and eat! Come, buy wine and milk without money and without cost. Why spend money on what is not bread, and your labor on what does not satisfy? Listen, listen to me, and eat what is good, and your soul will delight in the richest of fare. Give ear and come to me; hear me, that your soul may live. I will make an everlasting covenant with you, my faithful love promised to David.”
(Isaiah 55:1-3)
"Be strong and let your heart take courage, all you who wait for and hope for and expect the Lord!" (Psalm 31:24)
Wednesday, December 2, 2009
Relationships: Tearing Down the Walls
When I was preparing to speak on the topic of marriage recently, I searched for the right image to portray common difficulties and the need to develop a lifestyle of forgiveness, healthy communication and showing love towards one another in practical ways that can be felt. Then this image of the wall came to mind.This scenario often happens in marriage: The wife feels misunderstood by her husband, so she lays down a brick between them. The husband thinks she doesn't show him respect, so he lays down a brick. She tries to pour out her heart to him, but he is headed out the door and doesn’t have time. Another brick. Burnt toast in the morning, another brick in the wall. Sometimes a wall is erected overnight when there is major trauma in a marriage, such as abuse or an affair. But there may be a small window left through which the two of them communicate civilly day in and day out. An occasional arrow is shot through the small opening, but the two of them continue to go through the motions of life on each side. They may even pray and serve others in many ways. The veneer of relationship remains while they deny or minimize the presence of the wall which stands between them.
Enter God’s plan for marriage. There is no relationship like it on earth, that is why the battle rages hot and strong to ruin this powerful, precious, most intimate of all earthly relationships. It is meant to represent the relationship between Christ and His church, providing a loving model for generations. When a couple settles for a marriage that is barely alive, then the damage reaches far beyond the hollowness of their own lives. Many people don’t believe they can find that place of closeness and love again. Like a driver who keeps running into trees and gets a new car thinking that will solve the problem, people often leave a relationship when difficulties arise only to run into the same problems again. Problems in relationships don’t solve themselves, healthy relationships can be learned.
Love is wasted on saints, love was meant for sinners (Mike Mason, “The Mystery of Marriage”). Marriage puts two people in the vice grip of love where feelings alone are not enough. The need for unconditional love, God’s love is apparent. “Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.” (1 Cor. 13:4-6)
Do you sense a wall in your relationship?
Here are a few ways to tear down the wall and build a stronger marriage:
- Grow in forgiveness
- Learn to respond instead of react
- Choose “we” over “me” when making decisions
- Create boundaries to protect your relationship in place of walls that divide
- Have a date night, coffee, lunch, or whatever works with your schedule
- Talk and pray through issues and concerns periodically, but not on your date!
- Learn the love language of your spouse (gifts, acts of service, words of affirmation, touch, quality time) - Gary Chapman
- Get help and advice from others when needed
Wednesday, September 9, 2009
T: The Terrestrial
Recently I have been saddened by the "me-centered", so-called Christian messages out there. In
Error #1: It’s all about me
I like mini Coopers. In our neighborhood in the center of Kiev there are four of them and when I go for a run, I pass all of “my” mini Coopers and admire them. One Saturday morning I returned home from my run and mentioned to my daughter with her friends present that one of my mini Coopers was dented. My daughter, Abbi, said to her friends “She’s just imagining it. I mean, they are really there, but they are not hers.” I had an immediate flash-forward to me at age 85 sitting in a nursing home and Abbi trying to convince the nurse that I do not belong in the dementia ward. I had, in fact, lived in
Pitfall: If you look to God as a formula for your personal blessing and happiness, then when things don’t turn out as you expected, you may bail out of relationships and turn away from God.
Error #2: It’s all about this life
Then there is the “save the world by our own efforts and goodness” approach. It sounds like this: let’s create programs to help people and do what we can to bring about a world of peace and harmony, but let’s leave out the offensive parts of the Bible, such as heaven and hell and sin. People don’t really need to hear that kind of teaching, it would just turn them away . . . or turn them to the God who loves them and offers salvation and new life.
Pitfall: You may end up lost and leading others astray with no life-giving, redeeming message at all.
The Christ-Centered Life
When our lives are God-centered through faith in Jesus Christ, we are freed from our small, sinful, out of synch worlds and brought into the fullness of His love and purposes, uniting us in healthy, vibrant relationships with others. And with the assurance of life after death in heaven for all eternity.
Any other message disappoints.
“Since, then, you have been raised with Christ, set your hearts on things above, where Christ is seated at the right hand of God. Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things. For you died, and your life is now hidden with Christ in God. When Christ, who is your life, appears, then you also will appear with him in glory. Put to death, therefore, whatever belongs to your earthly nature: sexual immorality, impurity, lust, evil desires and greed, which is idolatry.”
(Colossians 3:1-5)




